(Master Jun Hong Lu’s call-in radio program)
HOW DO WE AVOID BEING CONSTANTLY BOTHERED BY WHAT OTHERS THINK
In an effort to break the habit of selfishness, a Buddhist friend practised to see things from others’ perspective and learnt to put himself in others’ shoes. However, he ended up being caught in a predicament where he is constantly bothered by what others think. Master, with regards to the phenomenon, may I know how do we actualize the mean (“middle way”) where we are able to be neither selfish nor bothered by what others think of us?
Master Jun Hong Lu:
This is easy. Turn a deaf ear, that’s it! “Speak no evil, hear no evil and do no evil.” What others say has nothing to do with us. There is nothing we can do to stop them. Just ensure that we are righteous. Frankly speaking, if someone says that we are not good, does that make us inferior? The same goes if they start to spread bad rumours about us, does that make us a bad person?
That’s not possible. “A righteous person is able to conquer the demons”, this is what you mentioned before, Master.